Once you reach out, Allen will schedule a brief phone consultation (if you want) to get to know one another, answer any questions you may have, and schedule your first appointment.

We'll meet in a simple room with sofas and comfy chairs. No chaise lounges - and no pressure to tell me everything about your childhood, that's not really how counseling works! Instead, you'll have a comfortable space to talk about what matters most to you.

Most men leave the first session with a mix of relief and hope: relief that it's not as overwhelming as they feared, and hope that we'll actually be able to make progress. From there, we'll build a schedule that works for you. Most guys start on a weekly or bi-weekly schedule which we'll adjust as you make progress toward your goals. 

We’ll begin with a short introduction and a bit of paperwork, then move into conversation. I’ll ask about what brings you here, what life looks like for you right now, and what you hope to get out of counseling. You don’t need to have all the answers or share everything at once, we'll build trust as we go.

Some men worry they’ll have to show up a certain way in counseling: more emotional than they are, less angry than they feel, or more talkative than they’re comfortable with. That’s not the case here. You can show up as yourself. Quiet, blunt, unsure, worked up, or whatever else you may be that day. My job isn’t to fix who you are, but to help you gain traction where life feels stuck and clarity where things feel cloudy. We’ll work at a pace that’s real and comfortable for you.